Tearing down the house – When your life story hurts
Now that I’ve started the second leg of my process, I am uncovering more. Childhood has its effects long after it is over. This holds true for every single human on the planet, not just […]
Mental health
On dealing with triggers
Yesterday, Joep was cranky. Nothing on the computer was working. He got progressively more upset. This is a trigger for me. We both know this and deal with it when it happens. This time, I […]
Somatic Experiencing
Today, I had an intake for Somatic Experiencing. I’m on a waiting list for trauma therapy, but that’s 15 more weeks from now and I decided that I’m not going to sit by idly and […]
Tearing down the house – Autism
A letter to many therapists. When you try to tell a therapist your mother is autistic, many choose the attack: “Oh and why do you think that?”. They look at you in a threatening way. […]
Tearing down the house – 4
Don’t kick, hit, scream at or threaten to beat your children Don’t assault or scream at your wife, don’t grab her by the throat and choke her Don’t bully your family, don’t put them down, […]
On hiding, worth and rest
When I was a kid, my mom handmade a tablecloth made of all sorts of colorful pieces of fabric. It had a door and window, and buttons and shoelaces to practice with for us kids. […]
Tearing down the house – 3
How often does a parent have to yell, scream and swear at their child, to do serious emotional damage? How often does a parent have to threaten beating their child up, to do serious emotional […]
Shame and self-talk
You don’t want to know the sheer number of bookmarks on my phone and laptop related to psychology, PTSD, Complex PTSD, high sensitivity, overexcitability, boundaries, attachment problems, communicating effectively, anger, shame etcetera etcetera. The list […]
A kiss with a fist is better than none
“You would run away. We’d be in the marketplace and you would run away. Your brother was just born and we couldn’t keep up with you and I’d have to look for you every time. […]
On emotional regulation
When I was in Japan, I remember a friend telling me that I came across as very angry. And it’s true. I was. And I still am. I’m still so very angry. I’m fuming. Just […]