Tearing down the house – When your life story hurts
Now that I’ve started the second leg of my process, I am uncovering more. Childhood has its effects long after it is over. This holds true for every single human […]
On dealing with triggers
Yesterday, Joep was cranky. Nothing on the computer was working. He got progressively more upset. This is a trigger for me. We both know this and deal with it when […]
Somatic Experiencing
Today, I had an intake for Somatic Experiencing. I’m on a waiting list for trauma therapy, but that’s 15 more weeks from now and I decided that I’m not going […]
Tearing down the house – Autism
A letter to many therapists. When you try to tell a therapist your mother is autistic, many choose the attack: “Oh and why do you think that?”. They look at […]
Tearing down the house – 4
Don’t kick, hit, scream at or threaten to beat your children Don’t assault or scream at your wife, don’t grab her by the throat and choke her Don’t bully your […]
On hiding, worth and rest
When I was a kid, my mom handmade a tablecloth made of all sorts of colorful pieces of fabric. It had a door and window, and buttons and shoelaces to […]
Tearing down the house – 3
How often does a parent have to yell, scream and swear at their child, to do serious emotional damage? How often does a parent have to threaten beating their child […]
Shame and self-talk
You don’t want to know the sheer number of bookmarks on my phone and laptop related to psychology, PTSD, Complex PTSD, high sensitivity, overexcitability, boundaries, attachment problems, communicating effectively, anger, […]
A kiss with a fist is better than none
“You would run away. We’d be in the marketplace and you would run away. Your brother was just born and we couldn’t keep up with you and I’d have to […]
On emotional regulation
When I was in Japan, I remember a friend telling me that I came across as very angry. And it’s true. I was. And I still am. I’m still so […]